George Washington's Rules of Good Behavior

George Washington's Rules of

Good Behavior, ca. 1746

The qualities that
would make George Washington a respected leader and a genuine hero of
American history were evident at a young age. General Edward Braddock,
Washington’s commander during the French and Indian War, wrote the
following appraisal to a friend in 1755:

"Is Mr. Washington among your acquaintances? If not, I
recommend you to embrace the first opportunity to form his
friendship. He is about twenty-three years of age; with a
countenance both mild and pleasant, promising of both wit and
judgment. He is of comely and dignified demeanor, at the same
time displays much self-reliance and decision. He strikes me as
being a young man of extraordinary and exalted character, and is
destined to make no inconsiderable figure in our country

(Kinnaird, George Washington, the
pictoral biography)

As a youth, Washington led a troubled life. His father died when he
was eleven. As a result, George spent much of his formative years living
with his older step-brothers, Austin and Lawrence. He received
some formal education between the years of six and fourteen, but the
majority of what he learned was home-spun.

One staple of his self-learning was a book entitled The Young Man’s
Companion published in London in 1664. The book’s title page
proclaimed that it was written "in a plain and easy style so that a
young man may attain the same, without a tutor." Included in the book
was a list of rules for proper social behavior that had been developed
by French Jesuits almost a century earlier. The thirteen or
fourteen-year-old George Washington would spend hours filling the pages
of his notebook with copies of these rules, many of which he modified to
better fit his own view of proper behavior. The boy entitled his
writings as the Rules of Civility and Decent Behavior In Company and
Conversation.

The result of young George's effort was two-fold. First, he was able
to perfect his penmanship – handwriting so immaculate that it was
commented upon throughout the rest of his life. Secondly, and more
importantly, he developed a set of rules that both reflected and molded
his sense of character and good behavior for the rest of his life. These
Rules of Civility were instrumental in the transformation of
the young boy who filled his notebook with them to the adult who would
become the “Father of His Country.”

Words to Live By

Washington's Rules of Civility contained
110 maxims. Here is a sampling:

1st Every Action done in Company, ought to be with Some Sign of Respect, to those that are Present. 4th In the Presence of Others Sing not to yourself with a humming Noise, nor Drum with your Fingers or Feet. 6th Sleep not when others Speak, Sit not when others stand, Speak not when you Should hold your Peace, walk not on when others Stop. 23D When you see a Crime punished, you may be inwardly Pleased, but always shew Pity to the Suffering Offender. 44th When a man does all he can, though it succeeds not well, blame him not that he did it. 45th Being to advise or reprehend any one, consider whether it ought to be in publick or in Private; presently, or at Some other time, in what terms to do it & in reproving, Shew no sign of Cholar but do it with all Sweetness and Mildness. 46th Take all Admonitions thankfully in what Time or Place Soever given, but afterwards not being culpable, take a Time & Place convenient to Let him know it that gave them. 47th Mock not nor Jest at any thing of importance, break no Jest that are Sharp Bitting and if you Deliver any thing witty and Pleasant, abstain from Laughing thereat yourself.

48th Wherein you reprove Another, be unblameable yourself; for example is more prevelant than Precepts. 49th Use no Reproachful Language against any one, neither Curse nor Revile. 50th Be not hasty to believe flying Reports to the Disparagment of any. 56th Associate yourself with Men of good Quality if you Esteem your own Reputation for 'tis better to be alone than in bad Company. 71st Gaze not on the marks or blemishes of Others and ask not how they came. What you may Speak in Secret to your Friend deliver not to others. 89th Speak not Evil of the absent for it is unjust. 95th Put not your meat to your Mouth with your Knife in your hand neither Spit forth the Stones of any fruit Pye upon a Dish nor Cast anything under the table. 109th Let your Recreations be Manful not Sinful. 110th Labour to keep alive in your Breast that little Spark of Celestial fire Called Conscience.

References:

Murray, John Allen, George Washington's Rules of Civility (1942);
Kincaid, Clark, George Washington, the pictorial biography (1967);
Sparks, Jared, The Writings of George Washington, vol. 1 (1839).

How To Cite This Article:
"George Washington's Rules of Good Behavior, ca. 1746" EyeWitness to History, www.eyewitnesstohistory.com (2007).